- What is coaching?
Coaching is not therapy. Therapy treats illness; coaching corrects our responses to specific situations.
It’s an effective, engaging process in which a client and I have conversations that identify patterns. We then deconstruct and remove those blocks by interrupting them with simple to use techniques I teach them.
If you’re thinking about it, try it.
- What type of coach are you?
I deal with personal growth, relationships, and that feeling of being stuck so many of us have sometimes.
- Why should I consider a coach?
To get your experience to become what you already know is rightfully yours.
If we’re in pain, we know we’re not living the life we're supposed to or we wouldn’t be unhappy. Reaching out to a coach can change that.
A coach’s job is to remind you who you genuinely are.
- What should I look for in a coach?
When you first contact a coach, it’s to your benefit to be ready to be as honest as you can.
First, give the coach a brief description of your challenge or challenges. You want to be sure the coach handles your type of challenge. There are personal growth, transformation, relationship, spiritual and business coaches. And you want experience.
Then describe as best you can how you FEEL. You want a coach who understands your mental and emotional response to your challenges, so listen closely to the coach's answers.
The coach should ask clarifying questions about your situation.
Ask for a brief description of how they have helped others who have similar issues to yours. Make sure these answers sound like something you can and would like to do.
The coach should spend much more time talking about you than themselves.
Avoid set programs of so many sessions for one amount unless it’s a limited program like weight loss or quitting smoking.
- Why is coaching effective?
Coaching is effective first because the client has recognized an issue and reached out to correct it. Without that recognition from a client, no improvement is possible.
It's effective because so few of us are ever taught how to positively resolve the situations life presents.
So often our lives are like being asked to build a house from a pile of materials on a vacant lot.
We can have all the materials we need and still can't build because we have no tools.
Those tools are what coaching provides.
- What kind of techniques do you use?
That varies depending on the qualities of the client and their challenges.
I most often use selective awareness, mindfulness, and conversational search.
These are also the most conducive to in-person, phone or Skype sessions.
For details on these methods contact me.
- What if these techniques don't work?
The only times that I have seen these techniques not work terrifically well is in situations in which the client cannot or will not do the work they need to do to learn, practice and embrace the skills they are shown.
Those who look to me to provide the perfect answer or solution always quickly end their client relationship because they are looking for a magic pill no one outside them can provide.
Coaching’s goal is to lead each person to a place they can use what they have been taught to enhance their lives.
Each client is required to acknowledge and agree that I will stop seeing them and refer them to a health professional if I consider they would be better served by that route.
Do no harm is the base of any good coaching practice.